Reverse psychology and dating
, which actually tones down the explicitness that can make you get away with it.
Even if she enjoys the sexual nature of the conversation, her anti-slut defense will kick in, making her feel guilty about having such explicit sexual interaction.
being the ‘Dumped One’, I definitely found myself asking myself this question and even gone to the extent of frantically searching the topic on the internet (Yes desperation is the main trait of the ‘Dumped One’).
These situations that am talking about, of course had to be ones where I was in a relationship and my partner out of the blues decides ‘Hawi it’s over’; what is universally known as being DUMPED…
Everyone (except for the lucky few…very few) have gone through a breakup where they were the ‘Dumped One’.
Here it is, I think that when the ‘Dumper’ walks out, he/she had already conditioned their mind that the ‘Dumped One’ will retaliate and fight to fix things as this is the natural tendancy of humans we tend to try to fix things when we are not ready to let it go. That’s the interesting part, the Dumper is , in his/her mind it was not meant to happen like that, you were meant to fight and fix and they were meant to DEFEND.
And since the ‘Dumper’ is the one doing the dumping, he/she knows you were not prepared for it; so subconsciously the ‘Dumper’ builds barriers to protect their decision from your retaliation, they have actually put the fact that you will fight to fix the relationship into their plan of action and they know what exactly to do or say to defend their decision. They had programmed their mind so well that this was the way it was to happen that when it did not happen like that, the DUMPER actually now switches to ‘fix’ mode because his/her mind tells her ‘something is not right, this is not how it was meant to go’ and without knowing what happened …they start acting opposite of your response in an attempt to … Hmmm my explanation is a bit shaky with loopholes…wouldn’t mind hearing your views and comments on this subject…