Dating a man thats not separated
He is going to be officially divorced in September, so what is the difference in one month? He will turn out fine, and when his divorce is final, he will probably get more dates, which seems a little silly to me (that the women care so much) but it is what it is, right?
During the next 30 days is he going to all of a sudden become ready to date? Over his divorce just because he will have a piece of paper that says he is no longer married? I am not going to tell him I think he should lie on his profile and tell women he is divorced. Divorced Guy Grinning is a blog for men facing divorce and dating after divorce.
I would like to know, from your perspective, if this is a period that I should be around for, or if it’s something that he needs to go through alone?
Despite the fact that our relationship became more than just friends, we both pride our relationship on the fact that our friendship is the most important thing to us both.
A quick background: I met him about a year ago through work.
We became fast friends, bonding through shared interests.
I knew he was married with two young girls, but had no idea he was going through a separation, until he finally told me the situation had been going on for almost 2 years.
The thing is, every divorce story is different, every situation unique.
I think that people later in life make commitments of the heart, and whether or not they are monogamous has nothing to do with a divorce decree.
Regarding this guy’s situation specifically, I feel for him. In the meantime, he should keep doing what he’s doing: going to school, working hard and raising his kids.
There are many possible reasons people have issues with dating someone who is separated—not officially divorced: They think the person could end up getting back with their ex, they think the person isn’t mentally ready, they think that dating someone who isn’t officially divorced is the same thing as dating a married man.
While I respect the comfort levels of men and women who don’t want to date someone who is officially still married, I have to make the argument for why dating someone who is separated and not divorced yet is perfectly OK.