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Walls protect us from having to share the back story. Learning to say yes, no and I don’t want to talk about it can be critical in dating. Sometimes we’re afraid to answer straightforward questions so we avoid getting close to anyone who might ask.
If we never get asked the question then we don’t have to explain the answer. This also absolves from having to ask the tough questions as well.
I would meander, I would talk in circles, and I would bullshit.
When I learned to simply say yes or no and stop explaining I found that I could get my point across a lot easier.
She thinks I just wanted to use her for sex and showoff to my friends when that couldn't be further from the truth.
She doesn't have sex with just anyone, she only sleeps with her BFs and I was an exception (or an upcoming bf...).
You feel guarded, you have a wall up, you can’t get close to people and you’re afraid of getting hurt. We would all like to love with reckless abandon but we can’t because of that one relationship, with that one asshole, that one time. If you’re guarded it’s because you believe that you’re something you are not and you are fighting to maintain that image your ego has made. Brick by brick you have to start to dismantle those barriers and start living and dating. So how do you break down your walls and begin to date freely?
It takes practice and discipline but a wall isn’t necessary.Here comes the problem: She then asks me if I told anyone about it....(me and her are extremely honest with each other) and so I tell her our mutual friend XYZ asked me and I told him... She began saying how could I break her trust like that, she begins tearing up, saying she should have known better, she can't even look at me.What I know about dating and love is that you can’t predict how someone will hurt you. You will find some way to express love no matter how much you fight it and it will eventually hurt you but it will also heal you.Just when you think you’ve protected yourself from every possible hurt, and put every wall into place someone will come along and shatter your world. A wall blocks love from coming in and more importantly going out.