10 dating mistakes men make
Everything is new, you're both blinded by attraction, and there's no pressure to settle down or come to terms with the reality of a real relationship.But the early days are more important than you think, according to psychologist and relationship expert Tracy Thomas, Ph. "What you do in the beginning of the relationship—and yes, you should see it as a relationship, not just a series of dates—sets the tone for the entire relationship," she says.Right, but that's not a pass for you to sit back and expect her to come to you, says dating coach JT Tran. "Hoping for a woman to make the first move is fighting a losing battle. Not paying for the first few dates In today's enlightened society, the question of who pays seems complicated. "Some things are just too ingrained in gender roles," Thomas says."In the first few dates, you want to set that masculine, care-taking tone." Picking up the tab for the first three dates doesn't mean going broke—if you can't afford three fancy dinners, take her on a picnic, to a museum, or check out your local public library. Paying for everything Once you've set that "masculine, care-taking tone," you can stop diving for your wallet.Not exactly, says sales expert Grant Cardone, author of ."It's like trying to land a multi-million dollar account," Cardone says.But before you take the plunge with a sexy colleague, you need to step back and recognize what's really fueling the attraction."People in offices often bond out of survival," says Thomas.
Don't mistake that closeness for attraction." Your move: Ask her out, outside of the office. Going all in, right away Some women love over-the-top romantic gestures; some don't.
"Don't call her twenty times and ask her to dinner. Not speaking up Here's how to avoid the dreaded friend zone: Speak up.
"Guys get stuck in the friend zone because they don't make their feelings clear," Thomas says.
"There isn't anything more important than the connection you have with your date, and that comes from being truly present." 12.
Overanalyzing "Women get a bad rap for overanalyzing, but men do it too," says Chlipala.